I just one of those awesome/funny/thought-provoking lunches that I will probably remember for a lifetime. It started out as a random grouping of girls and ended with just Karolina and me. We talked about dating, clubs, love, taiwan, christmas plans, new years plans, and of course BOYS. We're both about the same age, have had similar boy experiences, and occasionally complain about our love lives in Taiwan. Foreign girls have the rough end of the stick...ugh.
Anyway, she told me she believes that boys have to have THREE different characteristics about them in order for the relationship to work (in the long term). The problem is, that most boys are lacking one or two of the 3 characteristics. After some serious analysis and discussion, we have named them the ABCs of *OUR dating world.
*I emphasize on OUR because what we want and what most people want are most likely different on some levels. Once you live a crazy, adventurous and overseas life like us, finding boys just keeps getting harder and harder.
Ok, moving on to the ABCs.
A stands for Attraction. This one is self-explanatory.
B stands for Bi-Lingual. This one is the tricky one that actually represents a lot more than just Bi-Lingual. It represents a man who understands us on a CULTURAL level, and for both of us, this means being able to speak multiple languages. Someone who understands my original cultures (for me this is both Hispanic and American) but also the culture that one adapts to by living overseas. There is just something so refreshing about meeting someone who just gets you on a cultural level, who understands why you live the life you do, why you act the way you do, why you say the things you say, understands your humor, why you use 2 or 3 languages in one sentence, etc. So, B stands for Bi-Lingual but really represents being culturally diverse and understanding of cultural differences.
C stands for Connection. Someone who just gets you. Who understands you. Who makes you laugh. Who makes you feel giddy inside. Undeniable connnection...a total must.
There are obviously a million other qualifications, but Karolina and I believe these are the fundamentals in our dating world. Other characteristics I find important are: kind, ambitious, sense of humor, thoughtful, good family, generous, spontaneous, adventurous, and good hair (haha!). But let's face it..it's impossible to find everything, but I'll settle for 90% of them. :)
ps. Maggi...happy birthday my love! Miss you dearly.